LET'S FIGHT!

It’s those moments, when a friend says something that’s jaw dropingly hurtful, a family member picks a sore spot disagreement, or someone points out that nasty little secret of yours that you don’t want to admit needs change. The yelling and finger pointing flies, and the damage is done before there was even time to analyze the true problem.

The words that come out of our mouths within the first few moments of a fight will determine how the entirety of the deep disagreement is handled. We loose track of the love we have for one another, our anger takes over, and years of memories, loving moments, and deep care are ripped away in a few hot seconds of carless emotion.

If only we could remember the reason we fight with our loved ones is usually out of love for them. That we are telling them of a flaw that they must not see, that we truly want the best for them, and that what we are telling them is hurting the bottom line, our love for one another.

As flawed humans, we will never get everything right; we will fail inevitably. Relationships, friendships, and families will never be flawless, but if we keep in mind that we are piles of baggage, full of flaws, and past hurts and pains, that coming into relationship with someone means putting that baggage together, opening up the garbage bag, pulling out the pieces that sometimes hurt us, that sometimes cut us, and sorting it out together; we remember that we are just as flawed as the other person, that we need just as much help as they do. It brings us back to the love we have for each other; it makes us humble, and keeps our focus that we are coming to them out of love.

Apologies when it’s not your fault, love when it hurts, be gracious when you feel like you have no grace left to give, because one day, it may just be you who needs it.